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Parenting: How To Be A Better Parent

...ort them afterwards. And here’s where things get messy. The ripple effect of your action is this. Your partner feels betrayed, hurt, and annoyed that you undermined them in front of your child. A wedge is driven between your child and your partner. Your child learns that they don’t have to listen to what mum/dad says, because you’ve inadvertently reinforced that mum/dad is wrong. But the biggest ripple really is this – ...

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5 Tips For Practicing Self-Compassion

...itical? When it’s you who’s struggling, things are different. Compassion gets replaced with self-criticism and we end up making ourselves feel worse not better. Practicing self-compassion is vital. It’s not selfish or self-indulgent, it’s a necessity. Life can throw us all kinds of curve balls and you’re no different than anyone else, you need looking after every now and then as well. So what are ...

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Self-Care: Making A Commitment To Take Care Of Yourself

...ague plan to make time for self-care, but life gets busy and it’s hard to find time to think about what self-care might look like, let alone having the time to actually do it. When did you last stop to take care of yourself? In a nutshell, self-care is about making the choice to do more of the activities that replenish and sustain you while at the same time doing less of what drains you emotionally and mentally. Making ...

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Parenting: What To Do When Discipline Doesn’t Work

...ences and other discipline strategies should be more effective as well. Scarlett Gill is a compassionate and empathic clinical psychologist who specialises in working with kids, teens, adults, parents, and families. She is dedicated to helping people overcome whatever problems they are experiencing in their lives, whether it be anxiety, stress, depression, low-self-esteem, self-harm, and behavioural problems....

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Why Are Teens Today Cutting?

...ode” to ensure their safety and reduce your own anxiety, but over-reacting can escalate your child’s distress and potentially also their self-harm. It’s difficult, but finding the right balance between intervening to prevent self-harm and allowing your child to retain their privacy and independence is key. There will be times when you will need to prioritise your child’s safety over an ...

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Self-Validation: What Is It + Why Do I Need To Practice It?

...ind and practice giving yourself permission, rightly or wrongly, to feel the way you feel. Step 5: Change Your Self-Talk As a general rule of thumb, if you wouldn’t dream of speaking to a friend the way you’re talking to yourself, you need to change your self-talk. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but practice trying to support yourself the way you’d support a friend. Your default will ...

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Using Your 5 Senses To Self-Soothe

...them care and support. When you’re upset and stressed, it’s important to show yourself that same level of respect and care, and you can do this by practicing self-soothing activities. When did you last take 5-minutes for yourself? What Are Self-Soothing Activities? A self-soothing activity is any activity that helps to calm or relieve you of some of your distress. The 5 senses (sight, hearing, tas ...

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Tips For Learning Self-Compassion

Are You Self-Compassionate Or Self-Critical? Self-compassion is the ability to be kind, validating, and comforting to yourself when things are difficult. It’s really no different from the compassion you might show a close friend when you notice they’re struggling or going through a tough time – it’s just self-directed. But despite having the skills to show compassion to others, we tend to ...

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Parenting Anxious Kids

...cool down area where your child can go to calm themselves when they show early signs of frustration or distress). If you’re ever in doubt about how best to handle misbehaviour in your anxious child, ask what would I do if my child wasn’t anxious? Your child may need your compassion, but they also need your boundaries. A clinical psychologist can assist you in developing effective tools to manage your child ...

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6 Tips For Parenting Teens In Their HSC Year

...ght also have moments of panic but try not to show it. Your child will look to you to gauge the situation and if they see you panicking it will reinforce their fears. Instead, help de-catastrophise worries and alleviate your child’s self-doubts by helping them look at things realistically and encouraging practical problem-solving: “Remember how worried you were that you wouldn’t finish your ancient history essay 3 weeks ago, ...

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