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Parenting: Are You A Helicopter Parent?

...cult to let your kids roam free in the big wide world. There are so many things that could go wrong and so many ways they could get hurt. It’s a natural parenting instinct to want to protect your child from all the potential harms and threats the world has to offer. But does hovering help or hinder? The first study to define helicopter parenting and its long-term effects found that hovered-over children grow up to be dependent, neurotic and less...

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How To Avoid 5 Common Parenting Pitfalls

...t to encourage your child to achieve in areas you wish you’d had more success in, but when you set expectations based on your wishes and not your child’s capabilities you run the risk of inadvertently adversely affecting his self-esteem. Emotion Coaching Solution: Seek To Understand Your Child To Know Where To Set The Bar When it comes to setting expectations for your child, ask yourself: “what expectations am I setting for my child in this. ...

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Replace Old Habits With New Ones

...ces? When I’m successful in breaking my habit, does this get reinforced? Basically, you want to avoid reinforcing your bad habits, and make sure you reinforce your new helpful habit when it happens. Do something nice for yourself when you have success, have a bubble bath, get a massage, organise brunch with friends, watch a movie. And when you’re not successful, try to avoid inadvertently reinforcing your bad habit. Breaking habits is a gradual...

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Hacuna Matata!

.... Unfortunately, the more attention we give our worrying activity, or the more we try to suppress our worrying thoughts, the more it tends to keep going. One effective strategy to help loosen your grip on worrying, is to use self-talk to challenge the judgments you may have made about worrying. Next time you notice adopting your worrying routine you could say to yourself something like “I’m worrying, it doesn’t help, and it doesn’t hur ...

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The Should’s Standing Between You And Your Happiness

...I should go to the gym” “I must call my mother otherwise I’m a bad daughter” “I have to feed my children three types of vegies for dinner each night” “I must be married by the time I am thirty” Some of these rules might seem harmless, but if your rules are too rigid and inflexible it makes you vulnerable. Let me explain. Think about someone who lives for their job and believes they should always be progressing in their career. T ...

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5 Tips To Break You Out Of A Bad Mood

...ving house, breaking up with a partner, or deadlines at work). This will help you to remember that you might need to make use of your rainy day plan at these times, and marking them on your calendar is a good way to give yourself a heads up. Plan ahead and beat your blues Tip #2: Be Aware Of Early Warning Signs Have a think about what you tend to start thinking, feeling, and doing when you start to feel bad. It could be non-stop worrying,...

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