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9 Quick Questions To Help You Avoid Unreasonable Requests

...and you may find it affects your relationships. When we ask for help we need to balance three main prioritise: Our objective (the thing we want to happen) Our relationship (how we want the other person to feel about us) Our self-respect (how we want to feel about ourselves after we’ve made our request). It’s ok to ask for help when you need it, but make sure the requests you make are reasonable Which of these priorities is most...

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What To Do When Your Plate Is Full

...genuine and compassionate psychologist who is dedicated to providing adults and adolescents with a supportive, safe, and structured environment in which to make sense of their difficulties and take charge of their lives. She is committed to tailoring evidence-based treatments to each individual, and enjoys working collaboratively to help clients develop skills and self-knowledge to bring about meaningful and lasting change....

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Four Ingredients For A (Mentally) Healthy Week

...here are four principles you should keep in mind before you start each busy week. Principle #1: Check Your Thinking Awareness of the impact of your thinking on your mood and stress levels is a great skill to have. Remind yourself that thoughts are thoughts and not facts. Ask yourself: Is worrying about this getting me anywhere? Distinguish between situations that can be controlled or changed, and uncertainty that may just have to be tolerated...

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Are Your Choices Working For You?

...areness. Mindfulness means observing – our inner experiences and the world around us non-judgementally – that is, without reacting with evaluations (e.g. ‘this is good’ or ‘this is bad’). Mindfulness also helps us to develop self-compassion and compassion for others. To read more about Mindfulness and compassion click here. Many people have trouble with awareness. This is a shame, because awareness is only one part of workability. In order ...

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Tips For Making Tough Decisions

...ll actions that won’t solve your problems, not only that, they could make things worse for you in the long run. DO Live by your values. Knowing your values and actively living by them go hand in hand with acceptance. Ask yourself “what do I want to stand for in the face of this?”, “what sort of employee/partner/friend do I want to be?” and “Deep down, what really matters to me?” Being able to let our actions be guided by our values ca ...

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Childhood Lessons: How Much Do They Impact Adult Life?

...genuine and compassionate psychologist who is dedicated to providing adults and adolescents with a supportive, safe, and structured environment in which to make sense of their difficulties and take charge of their lives. She is committed to tailoring evidence-based treatments to each individual, and enjoys working collaboratively to help clients develop skills and self-knowledge to bring about meaningful and lasting change....

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Parenting Infants: How To Meet Your Infant’s Emotional Needs

...w Parents BY MARGIE MCCASKILL As well as physical needs, infants (0- 3 years olds) have basic emotional needs. These emotional needs lay the foundation for their adult lives; their future relationships, autonomy, resilience, self-confidence and emotional stability. Infants need to know that when they feel afraid, sad, or angry, there is someone trustworthy there for them, who’ll consistently provide them with safety, security and comfort....

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7 Tips To Help Your Child With Separation and Divorce

...oid speaking negatively about your husband or wife. Don’t place your child in the middle, as this can cause them more distress. Tip #7: Look After Yourself At an undoubtedly stressful time, make sure you have support for yourself. Reach out to family and friends, or seek support from a clinical psychologist. If you are feeling more in control, this will have a positive effect on your kids. Emma Boles is a Clinical Psychologist Registrar who...

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Turning Annoying Worry Into Helpful Worry

...m material she’s least familiar with, but Person B’s worry prompts an unrelenting cycle of rumination which has a detrimental affect on her self-confidence and motivation. The take home is this. If you notice yourself worrying, before you go any further, ask yourself if your worry is solvable and if it can be used to motivate action. If your worry is solvable, sit down and brainstorm possible solutions (see our blog on problem...

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5 Tips For Sleeping Soundly

...p routine, so it’s best to try to keep naps to about 20 minutes if you need them so they don’t throw off your sleep routine. Tip #3: Have a Bedtime Ritual It can be helpful to make some time to wind down and relax to get yourself ready for sleep, and having a nightly bedtime ritual is a great way to do this – whether it’s reading a book, doing some light stretches, or having a cup of (herbal) tea. Keeping a bedtime ritual like this helps to...

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