5 Pieces Of Parenting Wisdom We’d All Do Well To Follow

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Parenting: Do You Listen To Your Own Parenting Advice?

BY DR SARAH HUGHES

When it comes to parenting advice, do you practice what you preach?

Do you follow your own parenting advice?

The advice you give your kids is important. It’s life wisdom that will ultimately help your little people develop into happy, healthy, confident teens and adults.

The best parenting advice is timeless, which begs the question – are you following your own advice?

Next time you’re in the midst of a teaching moment, consider listening to your own wisdom. You might be happier for it. Here’s 5 great bits of parenting wisdom we’d all do well to follow.

Parenting Advice #1: Use Your Words

When our kids act out, we tell them to stop and use their words, but we often forget to follow our own advice. We stew over things but bite our tongues in the hopes that keeping quiet will keep the peace, but you’re human, not a robot, and at some point your frustration needs an outlet. If you bite your tongue things won’t ever get resolved and your frustration will drive you to take issue with things that wouldn’t usually bother you. When issues arise in your relationships, address them. Don’t bottle up your frustration, use your words.

Parenting Advice #2: Trying Is More Important Than Succeeding

We tell kids that it’s not about winning and losing, it’s about having a go, but how often has a fear of failure held you back from trying something new or venturing out of your comfort zone? Whether it’s a promotion you’d like to go after or a personal challenge like running a marathon or starting a new job, don’t be afraid to have a go. If you fail, so what, you had a go and you haven’t failed to try.

Parenting Advice #3: Say Thank You When Someone Gives You a Compliment

If you’re insecure about certain parts of yourself – your appearance, your competence at work, your skills as a parent – your head will instantly dismiss any evidence that isn’t consistent with the belief you hold about yourself, including compliments. You’ll think the other person has just said what they’ve said to be nice, or because they feel sorry for you, but here’s the thing – people aren’t that nice. Most people are so consumed with their own insecurities, they don’t have time to think about how they can improve the self-esteem of the people around them. If someone gives you a compliment, odds are they’re being genuine. Practicing accepting their compliment and accepting it as sincere by saying thank you.

Parenting Advice #4: Stop Worrying About Everyone Else, Just Be Yourself

It’s human nature to compare. Add Facebook to the mix and it’s really no surprise that we spend large amounts of time comparing our lives to the lives of those around us. The problem is we tend to put ourselves on the negative end of the equation by thinking we’re not as successful, attractive, smart, or ‘together’ as the people we’re comparing ourselves too. Stop paying attention to what everyone around you is doing. Everyone has their own struggles and issues; they just don’t post them on Facebook. Let go of the comparisons and just be you.

Parenting Advice #5: Don’t Forget to Have Fun

It’s easy to get caught up in the day to day stuff – mortgages, work, after school schedules, family – and forget to have fun. Don’t forget to make time for the fun stuff. It might feel like you don’t have time, but it’s amazing what you can find time for if you make it a priority. The years you have now will be gone before you know it, and every time you say yes to a commitment you’re taking time away from the things you love to do. Be wise with your decisions. Find the right balance. Don’t forget to have fun.

Dr. Sarah Hughes is a clinical psychologist and the founder of Think Clinical Psychologists. She enjoys working with children, adolescents, and adults, and has a special interest in working with anxiety, depression, postnatal depression, eating disorders, self-harm, and challenging behaviour.


 

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